Sunday, 9 November 2008

Money

I have a friend named Shelley and her and her husband have a lot of money. They are rich. They have a beautiful house, they go on beautiful holidays, she has beautiful things. I'm always, always pleased for them and have watched them go from being in a very small house with hardly anything to a lovely big house that is beautifully decorated. It's great that they have done well and I would never ever begrudge anyone of what they have. They don't have children as they feel they are too selfish and love their holidays too much. Shelley also does not have her Mum and Dad around anymore as they died a few years ago. I feel I am luckier than her because I do have 5 beautiful children and I do have my Mum and Dad around still.

But, she has annoyed me today. The other day I spent two hours pouring my heart out to her. She asked me how things were and I told her all about John not being happy in his job and that he was very concerned about the future and whether he would still be in a job in six months time. Also my ex had not been paying maintenance and times were very hard for us financially. We really have to watch what we spend and are trying to get our finances straight incase John does lose his job. Today she tells me that she has bought herself a treat. Fair enough. Anyway the treat is a Mercedes slk. Fair enough if she sent me one picture of it but she has sent me 5! One picture is called Mr and Mrs Merc and has her Mercedes and David's Mercedes side by side! Now am I supposed to be delirously happy for them or what!! Am I being horrible!

11 comments:

~Kat~ said...

I see where you can feel dissapointment But please understand you have something so much greater what is it? Love and honey that cant be turned in for no amount of money Just remember we all fall on hard times and I am sorry so much is going on But write a list of all the good things in your life it will make you see things will be ok God Loves you and he knows your hurts and pain and your worries he will mend them all just ask when we leave this world it isnt what you have its whats on the inside what we learned so that Mercades wont be nothing later on But your love for your family and all your kids it will last alifetime Blessings! Kat:)

Stuart said...

Be happy for her. If she thinks this is cool for her that's ok. Who wants two mercs when you can have love and kids and dogs......dogs......oh yes you need two.....you do

Tightening the Corset Again said...

I had a very dear friend who started out as a pregnant teen and married the baby's daddy... got her degree... worked hard to build a life for her family... and they were able to buy a really nice house and nice cars. I was so happy for her every step of the way because I knew where she had been.

Then one day while I was going through my first divorce and out of work and so discouraged she said some nasty things about me not having what she did because I had not worked as hard as she had... I felt like (and still feel like) I have worked hard but maybe not gotten the results I had hoped for. We stopped being friends. I still see her occasionally but it will never be the same for us.

I don't know what to tell you to do with your friend... at best she is just oblivious ... at worst she is boastful... and your reaction to her will have to be based on how much conflict you want to bring into your life. If it were me, I'd forget about it... but I also wouldn't be confiding in her about finances because she obviously doesn't feel your pain!

I'm sorry!
*Hugs*
heather

Maria said...

Hi. Lainey! I've found that the only way we can keep our heads straight in this crazy world is to try to not let others get to us. How you feel is natural. As a friend she probably needs to be a little more sensitive to your situation for sure. Sometimes friends grow apart for awhile and that's ok too. Don't let it get to you...if you are happy with who you are then that is what matters most. To me, she doesn't sound like the right person to be going to for an support or advice right now...but it all depends on how close of friends you really are and what your friendship is based on. Sometimes even though we might be the ones needing others to be strong for us we find ourselves having to be the strong ones. Good luck and hang in there. Happiness is important and only we can give it to ourselves. Does this make sense? Maria

Melissa said...

No u are not wrong in how u are feeling. I mean its one thing to want to share your happiness with ur friends but its another thing to flaunt and brag and I hate that, specially when you know the person u r talking to is going thru hard times. I mean thats like me knowing your hungry and sitting in front of you eating ur favorite food and not offer u anything, i mean u just dont do that. and im not gonna sit and listen to someone brag about all that have when im struggling, thats just rude. I knew people who did that to me all the time and i just stopped talking to them because seriously how can u truly say you care about someone when u can sit up with a smile on ur face and brag about how wonderful u have it when the person ur talking to is having a hard time. Its not right.

lunarossa said...

Hi Laine, I can perfectly understand you. Some years ago when we were struggling to pay the mortgage as we had a small baby and I had been unable to work for months due to pre-eclampsia, a "friend" of ours phoned us to boast that he and his partner had just bought a 200,000 Euros holiday flat in Chamonix. My first reaction was to put the phone down on him. Hormones, probably. Count your blessings, your man, your children, your health. All the rest comes and goes. Your friend is selfish but be sorry for her, because she does not know what really counts in life. Ciao. Antonella

Jeannette said...

No, your feelings are natural. You are richer in so many more way than her, you have family. One day they may come to regret their decision not to have children and later grandchildren. She could have just told you about her treat and not make a big thing out of it. She sounds very insecure to me and just has to flaunt things. Like I said, you are the richer.

Delores Getmeslippers said...

She is just being insensitive that's all. Send her a photo of your slippers, I do things like that when wealthy friends start showing off a bit!

Winivere said...

This is a funny post. Funny because you are so much richer than her!!!!!!!! Think about it!!!!
XX

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I had 7 children and at times money was tight at our house for sure. But I'd not trade my family for any amount of money in the world. Count your blessings! Someday your friend will discover for herself that things will not make her happy. 'On Ya'-ma

Indigo said...

Your not being horrible. Your friend is being inconsiderate. It's kind of what I wrote in my last post, people who are literally empty inside. Your friend can't see you...she can't see anything that makes her picture look any less perfect.

I know this sounds harsh, I'm just really angry at her for being so childish and cold. My dear sweet friend...you? Your richer in spirit than she ever will be. In life that will keep your heart warm and your days etched with smiles and beauty.

I don't see much of that in your friend. I see a vacate lipid existance. I wouldn't want her for a friend. Not someone who couldn't see the beauty of the friendship she has with you. (Hugs)Indigo