Friday, 26 November 2010

Friday

My 17 year old, Sam, dropped another bombshell on me last night. He went to a concert and was offered weed and on his way home texted his friend to say 'do I smell of weed' and sent it to me instead of his friend. Talk about dropping yourself in it!

I was shocked, hurt and very disappointed! I really laid into him when he got home. I even threatened to chuck him out if he dared to take up smoking weed or even worse try harder drugs. That's always been my fear, that one day my boys may try weed then try something else and then so it goes on. All I can do is hope and pray that he doesnt get into drugs.

I was in a bit of a state but after a very welcoming message from a very dear friend, at a time when I felt very lonely, I felt better. Thank you my dear friend for being there when I was feeling very lonely and sad.

I've got to realise that Sam is being a normal teenager, he is doing what most 17 year olds do. He is going out partying, he is going to concerts, he is drinking sometimes, he is smoking and he has now tried weed. I dont approve of any of the things he has done lately but Ive got to be here for him when things go wrong, thats what parents do. Ive got to make sure he knows that he is loved and that he will always have a home. I shouldnt have told him I will chuck him out, thats a bit harsh. I regret that now. :0( I told him so, his reply was 'It's ok Mum, I needed a wake up call, I'm going to prove to you that I'm going to change.' I have to believe him, I have to support him, he's my son.

5 comments:

Jane said...

Lainey I have to ask you - where does Sam get the money to go clubbing and buy drugs?

Sara said...

Lainey Laine... it must seem as if the world is out to get you at the moment m'lovely.

I don't know what to suggest.

You are a fabulous Mum though, and you will help your boys through these difficult times. I have no doubts about that.

((( you ))) xxx

Ally Lifewithally said...

Lainey I think most Boys of Sam's Age try everything ~ mostly to be in with the crowd ~ I wish I had an answer for you but I do know you will be there for him ~ Ally x

lunarossa said...

OMG, Lainey. It seems that all of a sudden everything happens to you and your family now! Maybe it was just a puff from a friend, but you are right to question him about it. I know that 17 yrs olds are a bit confused, easily influenced by their mates (I've got one myself), that's the reason why we parents should try to keep a eye on them. Unfortunately they often don't take much notice of the parents but they need to know we are present to help and to scold. Keep your chin up. Hugs. A.

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

As long as he remains respectful, it means he is still listening. Don't give up.